Today’s Thoughty Thursday post is about body image. Since last summer, I’ve been gathering articles on this topic and, with the new year, I think it’s time to share them.
So many people make resolutions about how they look. Hell, I used to make these resolutions. And this year, I just. . .didn’t.
Perhaps it’s because I’m older and a teensy bit calmer than I used to be. Maybe it’s because I’ve got other more important things to work on. [I’m taking Margie Lawson’s Defeating Self-Defeating Behaviors course.] Most likely, it’s because I’m surrounded by people, especially at home and online, who value my inside image more than my outside one.
Whatever the reason, none of my New Year’s resolutions had to do with my body, except to start taking my vitamins again. (So far, I’ve only managed to get down Emergen-C and Baby Girl’s Mickey Mouse Gummies on a daily basis, but I’m doing it!)
Yesterday’s post from Kristen Lamb was a great one (go read it..we’ll wait):
Refuse to be Homogenized—Beauty, Bullying and Media “Mean Girls.”
One of my favorite paragraphs in the whole post? (And there were MANY.)
“But where I see the problem is, instead of being shown how to look great and age well, we’re brainwashed into believing we shouldn’t age at all. I have NO CLUE if I look good for my age. Everyone is Photoshopped or Botoxed. What does a healthy weight even look like?”
My daughter’s a toddler right now, which means she’s fascinated by everything and everyone.
She loves bodily functions, waffles, princesses, her parents, and her own face. She’s developing a sense of style and her first thoughts about her body. We’re watching this process and doing our best to just get out of the way.
Most of all, I’m trying hard to provide her with better input and messages than I received.
I find myself looking at cartoons and magazines in a whole new way, and I’m not always quiet about it.
My husband laughed at how irate I got when we watched Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer this year. I was angry at rude Daddy Donner for making Rudolph hide his glorious red nose. And I harangued over the fact that “Oh NOW they’re all madly in love with Rudolph…now that he has something they need. What a bunch of rude a-holes.”
He reminded me it was a cartoon, and Babykins wasn’t likely to pick up the same message.
Same thing when I ranted about Beauty and the Beast. “Really? So this nasty alcoholic kidnaps her and she falls in love with him, and trusts her love to CHANGE HIM? Really?!”
Yeah, I’m not very shy and retiring when it comes to these things.
Below are four posts on this topic that I loved and saved, just for you:
- “My Body Is Not a Stumbling Block“
- “How to Talk to Your Daughter About Her Body“
- The response post, “How to Talk to Your Son About his Body“
- And finally, “Can We Knock Off The Slut Shaming” by Emmie Mears.
What say you, my More Cowbell posse? Some of you are raising young women and men, some of you are raising no one but yourselves. However all of you received messages growing up, about your body, what you put into it, and what you put on it.
Which messages do you look back on with gratitude and which messages tormented you for years? What would you recommend for shaping a healthy body image/attitude in a child? What did you find damaging? Enquiring minds always want to know these things here at More Cowbell!