One of the most stellar bits of writing advice I’ve ever read was dispensed by Anne Lamott, the author of writing classic, Bird by Bird. Not only does Lamott give you “permission to write crap,” she also gives great brainstorming advice such as:
- “Keep a one-inch picture frame on your desk to remind yourself that for each moment, you only have to write as much as you can see through a one-inch picture frame.”
- In other words, when a whole project is overwhelming, break it into little pieces or as she says, “don’t try to eat the elephant in one sitting.”
I think of that one-inch picture frame all the time.
Maybe it’s because I’m a writer, but I’m always looking for examples of “big message” in a little space.
My Hubs is a master of this.
The first time he did it was about six weeks after we met. We were on the phone, planning a date, and he said, “Don’t you have RWA this weekend?”
One sentence. . .six little words. . .and I knew he was a keeper.
I knew this guy was tuned into me. When I’d said, “The second Saturday of the month is my writers’ meeting,” he not only listened, he put it on his calendar.
That was the moment I knew, I was a goner.
We’re coming up on 10 years and he’s still slaying me with little gestures that say, “I’m paying attention to you and I think you rock.”
A few days ago, I went into our shared OneNote binder for the family (I told y’all about it last week) and read through our list of upcoming appointments. Down at the bottom of the list, right after his birthday, I see this:
What says love more than a partner who’s a great parent, does the dishes and keeps track of when you met? For me, not much.
Seriously, I swooned. I’d have gobbled him up like chocolate mousse right at that moment if he’d been in the house. Instead, I’m blogging about him so y’all can think he’s a badass honey too.
What little gesture says “I love you” to you? It doesn’t have to be romantic, it just has to be a little message that goes a long way into your heart. Enquiring minds LOVE to know these things here at More Cowbell!
p.s. I hope y’all are having fantastic holidays and that all who celebrate Boxing Day are finding some great deals as they shop. 🙂
p.p.s. Writers, did you see Laura Drake’s fab post yesterday? You Know You’re a Writer If. . .