Welcome to Thoughty Thursday here at More Cowbell! This is the day of the week when y’all get to be privy to whatever thoughts are kicking around in my brain.
Today I’m thinking about sex and good health.
According to Dr. Oz, our four basic needs as humans are food, water, sleep and sex. And we need all four to be truly well and happy, whether we’re single or married.
I don’t know about you, but it’s pretty common for me to lack on at least three of those four.
Hubby and I talk to our Rockstar Counselor one Wednesday of every month (this is the guy who helped us get married, and we kept him to keep us from Dirty Fighting). Whatever’s going on in our lives, he’s privy to it and he helps us with everything from communication to parenting to sex. A hundred bucks a month is worth it to us, to make sure we’re staying healthy and happy.
Yesterday, we had our monthly counseling appointment and the discussion focused on sleep and sex — two of the things you don’t get enough of when you have a toddler.
Especially with us adding Crossfit to our lives and with me having shingles, the last few months have been challenging to our personal life, if you know what I mean. Sometimes we’re just too beat up or worn out to get our sexy on.
Rockstar Counselor’s advice was to just schedule it in, like a lunch date or a pedicure. It doesn’t sound all that romantic, but…we’ve got needs, don’t we??
p.s. If you’re female and you’ve got no “needs,” I highly recommend August McLaughlin’s post on Sex Drive Boosters for Women.
I was talking to a girlfriend the other day about Dr. Oz’s premise on “the four basic needs” and she laughed at me! “Who’s got the time?” was her answer. Based on that conversation, I’m bringing the issue to all of you.
Is Dr. Oz full of crap? Do you agree or disagree with his perspective on the four basic human needs?
How are you faring with meeting all four of the “basic needs?” If you’re hitting all four, what is your secret? What are your recommendations for keeping the romance alive with small children in the house? What is your strategy for getting enough sexy time in your own relationships? Enquiring minds always want to know these things here at More Cowbell!