Welcome back to Risky Baby Business, our Saturday series about babies and pregnancy here at More Cowbell! If you’re new, the previous posts in this series can be found here.
Last Saturday marked our 25th baby post here at More Cowbell! Who knew I even had 25 things to say about pregnancy?? I believe in celebrating milestones so I wanted to let y’all know and take you back to the beginning of this series for a moment.
The most important thing ANY pregnant mommy can do is lower her stress levels…or find her “Zen.”
Most of the regular readers here know that having a baby was some serious risky business for me. Though I wouldn’t change anything because I did get a fantastic daughter out of it, there are pieces of information that I wish I’d known much earlier.
One of the downsides (for me) of having a baby is that the process differs from woman to woman and child to child. There is no possible way to set your expectations. Nope. You wake up one morning and find yourself strapped on the Pregnancy Surfboard, adrift in the Ocean of Gestation (and not anywhere near ready to ride the waves).
Whether you’re in calm waters or stormy riptides, you just have to roll with it and trust that things will be fine. Seriously. The majority of pregnancies are pretty normal. I think that’s why high-risk moms feel so very alone.
It’s crazy when you think of all the stages and steps that occur in the development of a baby in the womb. As my hubby told me when he compared computer projects to pregnancy:
We can’t get a project off the ground in nine months. And here you’ve conceived a life, built a placenta and grown a baby. That’s incredible!
Yeah, I sure did feel like Xena, the Warrior Princess Baby-Maker.
Hug those Xena days close, Ladies. Treasure those moments and keep them ready – either for childbirth or when your child throws their first tantrum. Those are times when you NEED to feel like a Warrior Princess Baby-Maker.
Information Overload and How It Affects Your Zen
You get a metric ton of information in eight or nine short months. Some of it is important and useful, but a lot of it is just people wanting to relive their own experiences (which have nothing to do with you). So, I’m reiterating the point I made at the beginning of this post:
Keeping calm is the new mommy’s #1 job.
Crazy levels of stress from the mama can make life harder for baby. Yes, you need to sleep as much as possible and eat really well but those are job #2 and #3.
HOW do you control your stress levels?
- By knowing that, in doing so, you are protecting your baby.
- Find your force field of Zen and step inside it. Carve that area of calm out like a nest in a tree and live inside it for the months that you’re pregnant. This is the most important thing you can do for your baby.
- Do whatever you must to find your Zen. Some women knit, some take up yoga. For me, it’s work that will keep my mind off problems. I started my current job when I was almost 5 months pregnant.
- Find that calm center and embrace it. It doesn’t matter whether it’s trashy magazines or meditation that keep you calm. I knew one pregnant woman who did loads of laundry multiple times because folding it soothed her.
Remember, God’s in charge of the pregnancy and you’re in charge of the Zen.
Do you (or did you) have a hard time managing your stress during pregnancy? Was there advice that you were given that helped you “calm down?” What do you wish you’d known earlier? Enquiring minds always want to know here at More Cowbell.