Welcome to More Cowbell! Today is Thoughty Thursday when we examine whatever topic is kicking around in my brain for the week.
Today I’m thinking about fluffiness. Not cute fluffy bunnies or puppies, or even fluffy writing. Nope. I’m thinking about THE BOD.
Look at that ginormous bundle of fluffy at the top of this post. I realized that’s how I’m seeing myself in the mirror. Just a butterball of big. I’m not seeing sweet little toes or a twitchy nose. I’m completely missing the shiny hair and the lovely background.
I’m not taking the time to notice the good stuff.
A note about the origin of “FLUFFY”:
Back in 2005, I got blood clots. LOTS and lots of blood clots. The kind where the doctors say, “You’re so lucky to be alive, now get your a$$ in bed!”
I was in bed for about four months.
My BOMB honey moved everything I would need into the bed with me. I had my computer, phone and snacks. I had pens and paper, books to read and my drugs. I was allowed to get up to go to the potty and, for the first month I was in bed, the scale was next to the potty. As the numbers crept up, I banished it to the office.
But I KNEW. . .and I worried. I felt ungrateful as hell. Here I’d sideswiped Death and I was freaking about my thighs.
During a visit from one of my besties, I finally voiced my worry:
Me: None of my clothes fit anymore!
Her: They’ll start fitting soon. You just went through a lot. It’s going to take a while.
Me: But I’m so. . .fat. (This last came out in a whisper.)
Without a pause, she said: You’re not fat, Boo-boo. You’re just fluffy.
She wanted to make me laugh, and she did. Plus, I’ve never forgotten her words. Fluffy sounds a hell of a lot kinder than fat.
This brings me to the point of my Thoughty Thursday question…
Why are we all so freaking hard on ourselves?
We use words when we speak to ourselves that we’d NEVER say to someone we loved. We think things and do things to ourself that we’d never think of or do to others.
I always say “this is the blog about MORE.” So I’m calling myself on the carpet, and I’m taking you with me. In this month of love, I say we take a vow to extend that love to ourselves first.
I say we take a vow to SHOWER ourselves with:
- More kindness
- More patience
- More compassion
- More friendship
I’ll bet you bust your butt to extend those things to others. I know I do.
What about taking time to give these gifts to yourself? When was the last time you took a moment to practice a positive affirmation or give yourself a compliment? I’m betting it’s been a while.
I’m in the position again where I’m getting kind of fluffy. It’s been worrying me and I’m working hard to find a solution. Obesity can cause blood clots so the extra weight has to GO.
My latest effort is to go gluten-free. As of Fat Tuesday, I gave gluten up for Lent. I’m feeling a teensy bit guilty (because I did it for my a$$ rather than for God) but I’m betting I get over that if the needle on the scale starts moving to the left. (I’m kind of shallow that way.)
However, I’m going to be more kind and patient with myself while I look for the solution. If the gluten-free business doesn’t work, I’ll try something else. But I’ll do it with kindness.
I’m embracing my new attitude until my view of that Fluffy Babe in the mirror changes from the photo at the top of this post to THIS one:
What do you think? Can you commit to giving yourself a little MORE? Do you have areas of your life where a change in your perception would help your self-esteem? Enquiring minds always want to know these things here at More Cowbell!
Triberr Contest Update
We have our final three winners (last line – in red)! Below are all the winners of the Triberr webinar. We currently are batting around March 3rd for the webinar, but we can move it back to accommodate our new members if need be.
All 15 of you need to hurry up and join the tribe. If you don’t know where your invite is, leave me a comment here and I’ll send a new one. CONGRATULATIONS!
Part 1′s winners were: Nicole Basaraba, Sheila Seabrook and Raelyn Barclay.
Part 2′s winners are: Jessica O’Neal, Marcy Kennedy and Fabio Bueno.
Part 3′s winners are: Leanne Shirtliffe, Gloria Richard and Kate Wood.
Part 4′s winners are: Elena Aitken, Stacy Green and Suzan Isik.
Part 5′s winners are: Karen Rought, Patricia Sands and Renee Shuls-Jacobson.