Welcome to Risky Baby Business! Saturdays are ALWAYS about pregnancy and babies, here at More Cowbell, particularly those on the high-risk side. For a list of previous Risky Baby Business posts, click here.
Since several of our readers are in various stages of baby-making, we’ve been talking a lot about Labor and Delivery as well as products we liked during pregnancy and beyond. But what about when you’ve delivered the child and the hospital releases you to go home? Or when you have a home birth and the last childbirth professional walks out your front door?
I remember looking at the nurses rushing around our room, trying to discharge us from the hospital and shooting my husband a look that begged him to “please get them OUT of here for a minute!”
Thankfully, he got the memo and asked for a few minutes of privacy to feed the baby. The second they left, I started crying.
Disclaimer: You’re going to do that more often than you expect to.
When a new mom builds up hormones for 9 months and starts offloading them at a rapid pace (after the baby is born) emotions might be a little rocky. Especially, if you were a high-risk pregnancy, you’ve been worrying for MONTHS. Even if a new mom doesn’t get official post-partum depression, new parents can expect to be exhausted and, well…emotional.
I remember looking over Baby Girl’s head, with big crocodile tears pouring down my face, and
whining saying, “We’re actually going to take her home? Now?”
Him: “Well, we’re not leaving her here.”
Me: “I know that!”
Him: “It’s going to be fine.”
I wanted to ask him, “How do you know?” But the hardest part of being a new parent is the realization that NO ONE really knows what they’re doing, especially you.
You can take every parenting class in the world (and you should, just to get some comfort with the basics) and your new child is still going to stump you with some issue that you’ve got no answer for. Probably in the middle of the night.
You are now in charge of keeping this little being safe and there will be a moment of terror, sometime in that baby’s first few weeks of life, when you wonder how the hell you’re going to do that.
I can give you some practical tips to help you get a little more sleep, but I cannot help you wrap your brain around that concept of 100% responsibility for the safety and well-being of your first child.
But I’ll be happy to listen while you vent. 🙂
Did any of you parents have jitters the first time you were alone with your new baby? What do you remember as your “what in the world is this child doing” moment? For any of you who are pregnant now, what are some of the things you’re worried about? (The moms who hang out here have great answers!)