Many of you know that I’m working on a memoir about high-risk pregnancy, but you might not know very much about it beyond my ROW80 and Life List Club goals. Starting today, the topic here at More Cowbell each Saturday will be BABIES.
The new Saturday column is called
Risky Baby Business:
forty weeks of fearful nights
I’ll share something with you: Having a baby was some serious risky business for me. Though I wouldn’t change anything because I did get a fantastic daughter out of it, there are pieces of information that I wish I’d known much earlier.
Pregnancy is a beautiful, natural thing – at least it should be. I know women who could get pregnant on a coffee break. They think, “Maybe I want a baby” and POOF! That’s awesome stuff. All you Fertility Vixens make gestating look easy and fun.
Then there’s the rest of us who maybe had a different experience. The mommies who spent some or all of their pregnancies wondering things like:
“Will I get to keep this baby?”
“Will this baby be OK?”
“Will I die?”
and my big question:
“Where’s my damn book?”
How is a high-risk journey different?
Pregnant women in the high-risk category most likely:
- Visited fertility specialists
- Had spooky procedures or treatment
- Had two O.B.’s – a “normal” one and a “high-risk” one
- Went through vast amounts of genetic testing
- Experienced multiple miscarriages
- Underwent monthly or weekly monitoring
- Were told they couldn’t have babies
- Gave themselves shots or took serious meds
- Had an increased risk of death with pregnancy
- Went on bedrest early in the pregnancy
Whatever it is that makes impending motherhood detour down the high-risk path, it stresses a mom out! (Ditto for their pregnancy partner.) The worry level is higher and, often, the questions are life threatening.
If you are in that high-risk category where you are worrying about your health, and that of your baby, I’m hoping Risky Baby Business will be a calming resource for you. At the very least, I hope to make you smile each and every Saturday morning.
If you just like reading about pregnancy, I hope you’ll come add to the conversation each weekend. If it’s not your interest, I hope you’ll recommend Risky Baby Business to your friends, family and co-workers. I’ll still be up to my normal More Cowbell shenanigans the rest of the week, but Saturdays are now reserved. 🙂
Next Saturday’s kickoff post is “The Most Important Thing To Know About Pregnancy.” See you then!
Have any of you either experienced a high-risk pregnancy or been close to someone who did? In retrospect, what do you wish you (or they) had known?